Who Gets the Compliments – You? Or Your Clothes?

Self Image / Style

Think back on the last few compliments you received on your appearance.

Chances are, there’s a difference between the compliments you get and the compliments you actually want.

The Compliments You Get:

Has anyone ever given you compliments like this?

“I love your jacket.”

“That is a great purse you have!”

“Your shoes are so cute.”

“Where did you get your shirt? It’s fabulous.”

Start noticing what people focus on when they give you compliments. Do they notice you? Or just focus on your clothes?

Is it possible that your clothes stand out more than you do? Consider the possibility that in the past when someone complimented you on your jacket, they saw your jacket, but not you!

Why do your clothes take center stage?

Because that’s the place they take in the fashion and beauty world.

Every season, the fashion and beauty industry introduces new trends and styles. And no matter who you are or what you look like, you’re expected to wear them if you want to be fashionable.

Some women focus on the trends. Other women get overwhelmed by them and give up. But either way, women are focusing on something other than their own, unique beauty when they get dressed in the morning. It’s not surprising that other people don’t focus on it either!

The Compliments You Want:

When was the last time you received compliments like this…

“You look amazing.”

“What have you done to yourself? You’ve never looked so good!”

“Wow, you look so alive and vibrant.”

“You look so beautiful.”

“You are hot!”

If you have not been hearing compliments like this, don’t blame yourself! You deserve to hear them. Every woman does.

Why you should come first, and your clothes second

In all the years I’ve worked with women, I’ve found that every woman wants to not only feel beautiful, but also look beautiful—not superficially beautiful and not even supermodel beautiful. Every woman just wants to look and feel naturally beautiful.

You  know you’ve really brought out your natural beauty when you start getting compliments that focus on you instead of your clothes.

Learning how to use your clothes, accessories, hair and makeup as supports (not competitors) to your true beauty is the key to you being noticed and complimented, rather than what you are wearing. How do you do that?

Take Back Your Beauty (and Your Compliments!)

The fashion industry has not done a very good job of teaching the everyday woman how to bring her true beauty to life. It teaches a one-style-looks-good-on-every-woman approach. And when in-style clothes don’t look or feel good on you, you blame yourself!

Together, we women spend billions of dollars a year on clothes and accessories that receive compliments while these same items may be hiding our true beauty. But every woman deserves to be beautiful, effortlessly and affordably.

That’s where Dressing Your Truth comes in. It’s a supportive, easy-to-use fashion makeover system that reveals how beautiful you truly are and teaches you which clothes, jewelry, makeup, and hairstyles will honor and support your natural beauty—not cover it up.

Start receiving compliments that speak to you as a woman and not to the jacket you’re wearing. Take my 3-Minute Beauty Confidence Quiz to discover how.


Carol Tuttle


Carol Tuttle, best-selling author of four books, created Beauty Profiling and Dressing Your Truth to fill a need for women everywhere who don't know how beautiful they are. Her revolutionary makeover program has transformed the look—and lives!—of women all over the world. She wants to help you learn the truth about your beauty so that you can live it, dress it, and love it!
  • Snusan1109

    I got a great compliment today, and I quote… “You look very beautiful today.”
    OMG! I’m 50+ years, 50+ pounds overweight, and have just started DYT about a month ago. I figured out that I’m a type 4 (not sure secondary). During this time I gave away 5 bags of clothes/bags/shoes and bought only type 4 in mind. I haven’t received any compliments in YEARS, in fact I’ve been called a “gross lady” by two boys that were passing me by a few years ago. During the past month I’ve been complimented on my new T4 necklace, my T4 makeup (“so fresh”), and now the very best compliment ever … “You look very beautiful today.” I’m almost crying as I type. Thank you Carol and all ladies in the DYT community!

  • Guest

    Just yesterday the HR lady at work (or the former HR lady, as I’m no longer a contractor and was promoted back in January 2013 from a “red badge” to a “blue badge” came up to me and said “I’ve been meaning to tell you this for a while, but you’re looking FABULOUS! Whatever you’re doing, keep it up!” This wasn’t the first time I’ve heard this since I started the DYT program and most of the comments are “you seem to be standing taller – you seem so much more confident”… so it’s definitely not just the clothes. I’m a T4 with a (pretty strong) T2 secondary. I have mostly deep saturated primary T4 colors along with black and white in my wardrobe, and have until recently found few T4 accessories that fit and felt right. A couple months ago I replaced my “blah” no-frame eyeglasses with some somewhat striking large-lensed RayBans in a high contrast dark tortoiseshell hue with a pale “opal” inside that accents my fair skin. I also have scarves as a new GO TO and signature accessory. It might be a little contrary to Carol’s system… so it might be controversial to say that it seems to me that the little bits of T2 flow and color that end up in my scarves (bright saturated hued colored long scarves that have secondary color tones in the muted T2 colors) seem to have a soothing and calming affect on the one area I have struggled with most – communication. I tie the scarves so that they sit over the throat and heart chakra areas (neatly, but they do put in a little movement that is not as still as the T4 – or not at least in the sense I understand the T4) really do have an affect on my communication – and my confidence. Maybe it is because they are primarily T4 colors, or that I tie them in a constructed way… but whatever it is, they work. Fabulously! (which reminds me, I need to update my profile photo with the new look).

  • actiasluna

    Just yesterday the HR lady at work (or the former HR lady, as I’m no longer a contractor and was promoted back in January 2013 from a “red badge” to a “blue badge” came up to me and said “I’ve been meaning to tell you this for a while, but you’re looking FABULOUS! Whatever you’re doing, keep it up!” This wasn’t the first time I’ve heard this since I started the DYT program and most of the comments are “you seem to be standing taller – you seem so much more confident”… so it’s definitely not just the clothes. I’m a T4 with a (pretty strong) T2 secondary. I have mostly deep saturated primary T4 colors along with black and white in my wardrobe, and have until recently found few T4 accessories that fit and felt right. A couple months ago I replaced my “blah” no-frame eyeglasses with some somewhat striking large-lensed RayBans in a high contrast dark tortoiseshell hue with a pale “opal” inside that accents my fair skin. I also have scarves as a new GO TO and signature accessory. It might be a little contrary to Carol’s system… so it might be controversial to say that it seems to me that the little bits of T2 flow and color that end up in my scarves (bright saturated hued colored long scarves that have secondary color tones in the muted T2 colors) seem to have a soothing and calming affect on the one area I have struggled with most – communication. I tie the scarves so that they sit over the throat and heart chakra areas (neatly, but they do put in a little movement that is not as still as the T4) really do have an affect on my communication – and my confidence. Maybe it is because they are primarily T4 colors, or that I tie them in a constructed way… but whatever it is, they work. Fabulously!

  • Amy Derry

    I’ve noticed in the past two weeks since I have started dressing my truth as a type 3 I get a lot of compliments on me, not something I am wearing! I work in the fashion industry and have done the standard look of black pin straight hair, smokey black eyes, and structured bold clothing and accessories. I have figured out that my secondary is a type 4 and I do appreciate darker colors and clean lines but I always got complimented on my shoes or earrings or red lipstick. I still love a smokey eye but switched to brown and and took the black out of my hair. Within the first few dayes people were commenting on how great I looked! Not what I was wearing, just me. People also kept asking if I’d lost weight even though I hadnt. I stopped at Starbucks the other day and a batista said “You are so beautiful! You look really pretty today. ” Wow! I do feel good. The only downside is my husband that loves long hair (he freaks if I even mention getting it trimmed) and prefers a very soft feminine classic type 2 look. I’m hoping that as he sees the confidence and positive attitude change he will be more open to the true type 3 me!